John Edwards is flawed. He had an affair. So have, according to a report on Good Morning American today, 22% of husbands and 13% of wives. And it seems to be a nonpartisan failing.
What is our obsession with this story- or at least the media’s obsession? And all that righteous puffery blowing from the “right”. How could have done this? Well- how could Senator Vitter have done it, how could Senator Craig have done it? The list goes on- but it would also include the question; how could John McCain do it?
There is no doubt that Democrats have had their scandals too- President Clinton, Governor Spitzer, Former House Speaker Tom Foley come to mind.
So many are outraged that Edwards’ affair occurred while his wife was dealing with cancer. On a personal level- sure I find it sleazy, but I’m not married to the guy and it’s not my business. John Edwards was stupid. Most of these men are. But John McCain? When he cheated he was far from stupid. He left a woman who had suffered a bad car crash for a wealthy blonde who’s family could open up a wallet and help the guy.
On the Huffington Post.com Cenk Uygur wrote:
“So, why are McCain’s actions any more excusable than Edwards’? Because it was thirty years ago? Does that wash it away? Will we be fine with Edwards running for office again in a couple of years because then it will all be in the past? What is the statute of limitations on an affair?
Remember Ronald Reagan, Nancy Reagan and Ross Perot were so upset with how John McCain dealt with his first wife that they didn’t forgive him for a very, very long time. Perot still hasn’t forgiven him. In fact, he said recently about McCain dumping his first wife for Cindy, ‘McCain is the classic opportunist. He’s always reaching for attention and glory.’
So, I want every pundit who condemns John Edwards today to tell me what the difference between him and McCain is and why John McCain shouldn’t also be run out of politics for his adulterous affairs and what he did to his first wife.”
Adultery is not uncommon. I guess it was so common among the ancient Jews God needed to remind them of this by writing not one by two commandment about it – “Thou shall not commit adultery”, “Thou shall not covet thy neighbor’s wife”. A little overkill in my opinion, but who am I to second guess the word of God.
And lying about adultery and sex- well they are as old as human sexuality. I don’t care if anyone lies about their sex life or their affairs unless I am in an intimate relationship with that person. The only people who should be concerned about lies of infidelity are those in the relationship beyond that it is no one’s business. The outraged moral shock from people like Sean Hannity is repulsive. Not only do people judge the party who has been unfaithful but they judge the decision of the party who make the decision to stay with their spouse and in the case of women who are cheated on; they are treated like little victims. It is patronizing and demeaning and, yes, sexist. Poor Elizabeth, poor Silda, poor Hillary. It isn’t any of our business.
I don’t care if someone lies about sex, I do mind when a President lies about getting us into a war- that is an offense that is truly unforgivable.